Examine why we attract negativity

First appeared in the Poughkeepsie Journal
by Dr. Adrian Calabrese

  Let's face it, folks, in our daily lives we are bombarded with negativity. It's all around us. We can't escape the dark side of life, as hard as we may try. So I'm here to suggest something to you: Stop trying so hard.
  There are ways to stop the negativity from affecting your life without struggle and pain. Seems like a revolutionary new concept, right? It's rather simple, really. It's a matter of choice.
  Choose to live your life in a loving, happy and positive way, and God will support that. Choose to live your life in a struggling, sad and negative way, and that will be supported, too.
  You see, we get what we give. If we respond to negativity in our lives with more negativity, that's what we'll get in return. But, if we respond to negativity with tolerance, and we try not to exacerbate it, we'll get peace and understanding in return.
  I'm not suggesting that when someone is beating you up, you simply take it. No, I'm saying that you need to defend yourself, and once you have, forgive your attacker.
  "Oh boy," you say, "that's a tough one."
  Yes, it is. How easy is it to love someone who hurts you, physically or emotionally? Well, if you do, you'll get back love, kindness and peace. You might not get it back from the same source, but someone else will be there to help you defend yourself, soothe your wounds, heal your heart.
  This is the way God takes care of us and supports us. The negative situation that affects us may be some lesson wemust learn in this lifetime, but if we respond well, we will receive God's love and support in one way or another. That is forgiveness and reaping its rewards.
  Negativity takes many forms and comes in many guises. If you are being abused by someone or some situation, you must ask yourself, "How am I a mirror of this negativity?" "What in me is attracting it?"

Unhappy? Determine why

  If you're involved in an unhappy relationship, what is your lesson? Why are you living through it? You'll probably find that you're attracting this negativity because of weakness in yourself. It could be low self-esteem. Your partner is a reflection of your self-worth.
  Does he or she reinforce your hate for yourself? We are led to understand our own weakness through others. When we do, we become strong, and we see how lovable we truly are. We get what we think we deserve. Nothing more, nothing less. What do you think you deserve?
  Take control. Figure out why you attracted this negativity and vow to overcome it. Say, "I know what this is, and I'm going to change it." Eliminating negativity means that you don't allow it to stay with you and ruin your life. You just don't accept it. Move right past it.
  Get mad, not sad. Be a spiritual warrior. Fight it with everything you've got, and know that God is there helping you to win the war.
  Don't let negativity take you down. Recognize it, bless it, defeat it, get mad at it.
  Courage wins battles. We can be so oppressed by our sadness that we can't move ahead.
  But, remember, you decide - to be sad, or not. Decide now. How do you face life? Are you always waiting for something horrible to happen? Do you think wonderful things are meant for other people and not you? Please, my friends, examine your heart, and make a wise chioce. Choose joy, choose hope, choose life.

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How to work miracles in your life

First appeared in the Poughkeepsie Journal
by Dr. Adrian Calabrese

  I am often asked, just what is a miracle? After much meditation I've come to realize, that miracles are unexpected manifestations of happiness, joy and bliss in our lives. They are situations, people and experiences that touch all of us at one time or another.
  The fact is, miracles are for everyone. The problem is that we don't think they are. We think they're only for rich or famous folks, but let me tell you, anyone can manifest a miracle if they truly want to.
  Miracles are changes, and we resist change in our lives. We resist committing to our future and the responsibility we share in shaping it. It's nice to think that miracles are "bestowed" on us because it's easier than participating in their formation. It's also easier to blame to God for not working miracles in our lives, rather than accepting the part we play in making them happen.
  I've also been asked why some people get what they ask for and others don't. Another tough one.
  Well, prayer carries some obligations. We must accept the outcome or result of our prayer, whatever it is, whether we get what we ask for or not. Don't be so concerned with the result, to the point that it consumes you. Trust that God will give you what you ask for if it is in your highest and greatest good. If you are meant to have it for your spiritual growth, you will. If what you ask for is not contributing to your spiritual growth, then you will not get it.
  My point is, that we must ask for miracles to come into our lives without expecting to get them. A novel idea, huh? It has to be OK with us if they don't. We may ask for anything. Whether or not we get it is a matter of our free-will choices and God's Divine Will.
  Making miracles happen in your life depends upon asking God's help. Affirm your requests, don't plead or beg. Say, "Thank you, God, for love (perfect health, prosperity,ect.) in my life," and know that if it is meant to be, it is yours already.
  The essence of what you want is the key. Don't limit your request, but ask for your highest good to come to you. Be clear on what it is you are asking for, the essence of your miracle. The universe supports whatever you ask for because God wants you to have bliss and be happy in this lifetime.
  It's easy to have miracles happen in your life. Here's the formula: